Too Much Clutter

I have been doing life all wrong and it has just suddenly dawned on me. I think it came on slowly, slowly enough that it went completely unnoticed for .... I don't even know how long, a long time, until yesterday.

I was looking at Elizabeth Messina's photography last night and while doing so I completely lost it. Her photos are amazing. you can see her soul in her photos, I get a sense of how she lives and loves and breathes. THey are all breathtaking images. All I could think about was, What is keeping me from that? What is keeping me from completely letting go during shoots and shooting what I see. Shooting to show how I love, shooting to show passion? Am I happy? Why am I not happy? What is keeping me from relaxing sometimes and just being happy?

the answer:


Clutter from other peoples blogs, others photos. Clutter from what I think other people want. Validation clutter brought on by my fake social life known as the internet. Facebook, blogging, business, and "getting featured" clutter.
Over the last several months my love, passion, and creativity have been replaced with crap that doesn't matter and that can't coexist with me being happy and becoming better. It might sound like this just applies to my photography but it's not! This applies to everything, this is my whole life!

So what do I do?


First, my mind
Emails, facebook, blogging, forum, and anything else you can think of, ONCE a day, if that.
Looking at any and all portrait, wedding, and family photography, other than my own is also out. This time spent on the internet will now be replaced with more time being mom, wife, daughter, and friend. More cleaning, more cooking, more reading, more music, more writing, more sitting and doing nothing at all. Sewing, knitting, painting, running, swimming, climbing, all more more more.

Second, my home.
We are getting rid of EVERYTHING. ok not everything but pretty freaking close, The goal is to get rid of at least 50% of the stuff in our home. We need 4 plates, 4 plates, 4 glasses, 4 forks, 4 spoons, 4 knifes. A set of bowls, a set of pots and pans, and 4 kitchen towels. Everything else is GONE. 4 towels, 2 sets of sheets, 2 extra blankets ... you get the point. And yes, this does apply to clothes. I think the only thing exempt from is my library but I will be going through even that and only keeping those books that are dear to me.

Third, my business
My passion, my LOVE, my favorite shoots, are babies and toddlers. It is the only time I ever feel I completely let go in a shoot and shoot from my soul, and with PASSION. Like THIS.
So why am I doing anything else? Am I just shooting weddings because I'm decent at it, it's somewhat enjoyable and it makes the real money?
I want to shoot kids, and families in a completely untraditional way. In their homes, and in their pj's. Laughing and jumping on mom and dads big bed, eating breakfast, kissing, hugging, and being a family!

So what does this me for my business?
Slow and steady movement into a completely different market. Learning to say "No" to shoots that don't fit and clients that want something that is not me.
Yes I will still do weddings, I do enjoy them, but I'm done advertising for them and gradually you'll see weddings on my website and blog become less and less prominent. If this means less paid gigs, starting my portfolio from scratch, and staying at me part time job, then great! It only took me few years to get where I am now, and I started with nothing.

Already, just discussing this all with Kerry and setting up a plan, I feel lighter. I feel my passion creeping back in and pushing out all the junk. Happiness isn't in stuff, or money, or even self accomplishments. It's in relationships and experiences and I need to stop what I'm doing and go and have those. Mediocrity creeps up on you fast and I am done living it.

Stay posted, this is going to get awesome.


  1. I love this! That you want to capture regular every day moments that happen in the home. The girls and I have a little routine every morning that I would love to capture on film. The look on Della's face when I go to get her in the morning, and how excited Sara and Della are to see each other when Sara wakes up, eating breakfast and me feeding Della a bottle in her room to lay her back down for a nap. We got our family pictures done over a year ago and the photographer did SO many candids that I LOVED! She doesn't do it anymore which is sad because I've never gotten so many compliments on my pictures and I haven't been able to find anyone else who does candids. I always feel awkward when doing them but once they're done and printed I just love it! It really would be awesome if you could just spend a morning at our house capturing these little moments- I just don't know how much that'd cost me.... Then I love your idea of photographing the family on Dad's bed- which I definitely want to do one of these days. Maybe when the girls are older or when we add another one just 'cause we barely got pictures with the whole family. Anyway- just thought I'd mention that see if it was something you'd be interested in...?

  2. I can't wait for this! You could spend real quality time with people (me) and also explore your creativity (sewing, knitting, etc) at the same time! Wanna be my craft buddy? If you have a card type folding table that you're going to be getting rid of, let me know. I need one for my sewing. And if you need someone to help you sort through anything, take stuff to DI, post things for sale on KSL, Craigslist, whatever, I can always help. Or, if there is anything you just don't think you can get rid of, but don't have space for, you can always "lend" it to me :) Love you Sharon. I'm proud of you for doing this. And I know exactly how you feel. Never be afraid to ask me for anything

  3. I am staying posted. Can't wait to see what is coming.

  4. Good for you Sharon! I am so happy for you! I need to follow your example and really figure things out, especially since i just graduated from university! i really hope things are awesome for you!

  5. I stumbled upon your blog through a series of random links, but just wanted to say I LOVE your images, your writing style, your 'voice' ... it's all very beautiful and very REAL. I can relate to so much of it. Thx for articulating all the voices in my head! ;-) Keep creating ... it's obviously one of the things you were meant to do. :-)

  6. Thank you Holly! GOod timing, I needed that this morning : )


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